Wednesday, October 29, 2014

The New Mrs. Collins by Quanie Miller

I'm happily turning my blog over to the crazy-talented Quanie Miller today, whose paranormal novel, The New Mrs. Collins, hit the proverbial shelves on October 13th. I can't wait to read this one! While I do, I'll turn this post over to Quanie (who, by the way, also writes one of the most thoughtful, funny, and insightful blogs out there. If you're not following her - well, what are you waiting for??) :




The Art of Saying No

A few weeks ago, I was on Facebook when I ran across a post by author Jonna Ivin:

“I have a great idea for a book. You should write it and we'll split the profits!”

Her response:  “Really? I have a great idea for an amusement park! You should build it and we'll split the profits.”

I got a good laugh out of that, and it really got me thinking about all the writerly things that people have asked me to do over the years:

Oooh, you know how to write screenplays? I have an idea for a movie! Translation: I’ll tell you my nebulous idea and you’ll mold it into something decipherable, we’ll sell the script, and I’ll get half for doing nothing and constantly asking, “So when do we call Stephen Spielberg?”

Can you check this document for spelling and grammar errors for me? Translation: I use commas like they’re going out of style. Can you fix this mess of a letter for me? I don’t want people to know that I have commasplice-itis. Help!

I need your help with a job cover letter. Translation: Every time I apply for a job, the HR person calls and tells me that “awesometastic” isn't a word. I need your good time, energy, and creativity to mold this into something that uses words from an actual dictionary.

Oooh! You’re a writer! You can help me write a grant!  

Oooh! You’re a writer! You can help me write my newsletter!  

Oooh! You’re a writer! I can totally exhaust you to the point where you have absolutely no more creativity left for yourself and to sweeten the pot, guess how much I’m going to pay you? Absolutely nothing! Woo-hoo! It’s a win-win!

I used to acquiesce to every request, afraid of appearing like a mean girl for telling people no, then something happened a few years ago that changed that. Someone asked me to author a screenplay for a film challenge. At the time, I was also doing developmental editing on the side, working full time, and writing the first draft to what turned out to be my first published novel. I said yes, participated in the film challenge, and was so worn out and creatively backed up at the end of that process that I became a sour little ninny.

I decided right then and there that in order to save my sanity, I needed to keep the majority of my creative energy for my own projects.  I used to feel like I had to explain myself after telling somebody no: “You see, what had happened was, I need to finish my novel because my characters are starting to get impatient and are threatening to do mutiny, so no, I won’t be able to write that 10 page grant for you that you need tomorrow and only told me about 5 minutes ago.”

I started to just say, “You know, I can’t do that for you right now but I’d be happy to take a look at it when I get the chance,” and you know what happened? Nothing! No one demanded any explanations from me and it dawned on me that I had done it to myself. In the words of the great Dr. Phil: you have to teach people how to treat you.

Do people still ask me to do writerly stuff? Sure they do. Do I always oblige? Nope. And you know why? There’s a little adage that all writers should live by: the only way to write a novel is to actually write a novel. And sometimes, in order to make that happen, you have to actually write. And in order to write, you need a ton of creative energy, and you won’t have that energy for your novel if you’re spending it in other places.

What about others? Do people ask you to do things that drain your creative energy? How do you handle it? I’d love to hear your thoughts!



Book Info

Title: The New Mrs. Collins
Author: Quanie Miller
Genre: Paranormal
Release Date: October 13, 2014


Book Blurb

In the small town of Carolville, Louisiana, no one knows that Adira Collins inherited mystic powers from her great grandmother. All they know is that she’s beautiful, poised, graceful, and ruthless—especially when it comes to love. And no one knows that more than Leena Williams, who was all set to marry the man of her dreams until Adira swooped into town and stole the man’s heart.

Being left at the altar is bad enough, but Leena and her ex share custody of their son, so she has to see the new Mrs. Collins on a regular basis.

And it burns every time she does.

But soon, Leena starts to suspect that there is more to Adira Collins than meets the eye. And it’s not because she owns some kinky lingerie shop or allegedly insulted the pastor’s wife—it’s the strange way she can make a door close without touching it, or take one look at something and make it drop dead at her feet.

Leena starts digging for answers and soon discovers that, unlike her public persona, Adira’s true nature is somewhere on the other side of grace. She also learns, a little too late, that some secrets are better left buried.


Excerpt 
She was on her knees in the back yard when she heard the unmistakable sound of Johnny’s truck pulling into the driveway. She turned her head slightly to the right and got up just as calmly as Ronetha Powell had done the night she put a bullet in her husband’s head. She had done it so calmly. Walked in there while he was watching Wheel of Fortune, put the gun to his head, fired, put the gun down, and then went to Wednesday night revival and sang “Somebody Prayed for Me” with such vigor that the visiting pastor singled her out and shouted, “Woman of God! You are blessed!”
It was two days before they found Mr. Powell. Before that, Ronetha had merely stepped over him like he was a bunched up rug that she didn’t feel like straightening out again. She was taking her meatloaf out of the oven when they surrounded her house. When Leena saw Ronetha on the front page of the Carolville Daily, being taken away in handcuffs, she thought to herself that Ronetha looked as serene as a river on Sunday morning. In some odd way, Leena felt the same thing. Serenity. It washed over her as she quietly opened the door and tiptoed through the ice cold house, which, for some reason, was blanketed in shades of yellow. She heard movement upstairs and knew that Johnny was in the bedroom. She walked to the kitchen and set a pot of water on to boil.
She walked slowly up the carpeted stairwell thinking that she should have changed that beige carpet long ago. When she got to the bedroom and saw Johnny — putting a picture of them face down on the nightstand — the shades of yellow that had intruded upon her vision turned stark raving red. Still clutching the letter in her right hand she cocked her arm back and hit that son of a bitch for all he was worth. 


Quanie Miller grew up in New Iberia, Louisiana. She fell in love with reading at an early age and spent most of her time at the Iberia Parish Library discovering authors like R.L. Stine and Christopher Pike (she was often found walking back home from the library with a stack of books that went up to her chin). She holds degrees from Louisiana State University and San Jose State University. She has been the recipient of the James Phelan Literary Award, the Louis King Thore Scholarship, the BEA Student Scriptwriting Award, and the Vicki Hudson Emerging Writing Prize. She is the author of The New Mrs. Collins, a southern paranormal novel, and It Ain't Easy Being Jazzy, a romantic comedy. She lives in South Carolina with her husband and is currently, as always, working on another novel. To find out more about Quanie and her works in progress visit quanietalkswriting.com.


Book Purchase Links

Amazon (US) http://www.amazon.com/New-Mrs-Collins-Quanie-Miller-ebook/dp/B00OAC362I
Amazon (UK) http://www.amazon.co.uk/New-Mrs-Collins-Quanie-Miller-ebook/dp/B00OAC362I
Smashwords: https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/483357


Social Media Links

Twitter: @quaniemiller
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/QuanieMillerAuthor
Blog: http://www.quanietalkswriting.com
Goodreads: http://www.goodreads.com/QuanieMiller
Website: quaniemiller.com
Email: quanie@quanietalkswriting.com

45 comments:

  1. Good for you for learning to say NO and putting your own work first. Okay, I still struggle with it from time to time, but I'm in recovery. :)

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    1. I struggled at first but after you say no the first time, there's no looking back.

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  2. That is excellent advice. People do ask and expect writers to jump at the chance to something for nothing. There's already a lot of non-writing things an author has to do like marketing.

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    1. So true, Susan. Especially with all the platform building we have to do in addition to our writing.

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  3. Liz, you rock! Thanks so much for hosting me! :)

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    1. My pleasure!! This guest post is right up my alley - advice I always give that's never easy for me to follow :) So, it's great to hear it from others! And if I had a dollar for every time someone asked me to read/edit/proofread something they'd written, I wouldn't need a day job.

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  4. You do totally have to learn to say no. I still feel bad every time I do, but if I lay my schedule out for them and they can see I'm not just putting them off but I really can't fit it in, that always makes me feel a little better. Still...

    Unleashing the Dreamworld

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  5. Most of the time, when I tell someone I'm a writer, they just stare at me blankly. No one's asked me to do any writing for them. guess I should count myself lucky.

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    1. LOL @ "they just stare at me blankly." Yes, you should count yourself lucky!

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  6. Oh my gosh, this is so true! hahaha Love the part about the amusement park. Preach it, Quanie! \o/

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  7. It is always good to say "No". I have no problem with that:) I am glad that you found that ability within yourself. people often take advantage. Great excerpt from the book and nice to be hosted by a nice lady

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  8. I do get asked to look at résumés a lot. And I had one guy wanting me to help him develop a TV show. I was like, "Sure. Once we have a written agreement about how much you'll pay me." Oddly enough, he wasn't interested in that.

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    1. OMG me, too! And job cover letters. And an entire TV show??? I don't think people always realize just how much energy and effort goes into something like that. SMH.

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  9. You make me smile, Quanie. I don't get asked to write stuff for people, but I think it's because I don't come off as approachable in real life. :) Or I just don't hang out with book/movie creatives (if I designed robots, that'd be a different story). Those that I do hang out with that have ideas for books are writers themselves.

    Great post today.

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  10. Know when to say when! I learned years ago it's all right to tell people know. The nice ones won't be offended.

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    1. Yep! Once I became okay with saying no, I never looked back.

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  11. I have a terrible time saying no but I'm getting better. You made me laugh with the commasplice-itis. I actually have that LOL. Another thing I'm trying to get better with...

    This book sounds really good. Congratulations, Quanie!

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    1. Thank you, Julie! And I have commasplice-itis, too, lol.

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  12. I agree Liz, Quanie's blog is fantastic! and oh Quanie, you had me at Wheel of Fortune. Seriously. That show is my life (I'm watching as I type this!) so that quick mention makes this book a winner in my eyes. Also I am the worst at telling people no but I have gotten way better at it and it's freeing!

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    1. Ah! I LOVE that show, too! But lately my whole household has been watching Family Feud. And just practice saying no without giving any explanations as to why. After a while, it will become second nature.

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  13. It seems like a lot of other writers have people asking them to do writing work for them quite a bit; it's never happened to me, and I'm now quite thankful for it. O_o Definitely glad that you learned how to say no, though. It's ridiculous how often some people seem to think "artist" of any sort means "will work for free".

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    1. I must be hanging out in the wrong places, LOL! People are always asking me to do stuff. Now I'm wondering why that is!

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  14. Ha! Amen!!! Great post, Quanie. People will always find ways to spend your time. I'm very protective of my time and creative energy. I have no problem saying "no" if it's something that doesn't fit my life or my schedule. Although, sometimes I think I probably say "no" too much and it makes me seem unapproachable, so I'm learning to add in a few more yes's here and there.

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    1. Thanks, Demetria! And I love that: "People will always find ways to spend your time." So true! And don't worry about saying "no" too much. Gotta keep your sanity!

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  15. Awesome post, Quanie, and well said! I didn't know you write screenplays. That is so cool. I have a couple of books about the process of writing them but they are pretty much collecting dust. I could totally imagine you writing a great comedy!
    And Liz, you are absolutely right! Quanie is one to follow. Readers can always laugh or take away fantastic author information from her blog.
    I can't wait to dive into your new book one of these days! It's in my Kindle waiting for me, woo woo!

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    1. Thanks, Gina! And you know what? Before I learned to write a screenplay I had failed many times at writing a novel. Learning that story structure really helped me with my novels. And you guessed it: my first screenplay was a comedy (big surprise, right?). And I hope you enjoy the book when you finally get a chance to read it! Woo woo, lol!

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  16. The New Mrs. Collins sounds like a great read. I can also relate to people asking for writing help, though it happens with any kind of job. I'm a bookkeeper and people are always asking me to do their taxes. My sister is a naturopath and you can imagine all the health questions she gets. Boundaries are important.

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    1. OMG that must get so annoying, people always asking for you to do their taxes! Well, I hope they at least offer to pay you. SMH.

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  17. Learning to say no is good for everyone. I met people who've run themselves down by constantly doing something for someone else.

    I totally love everything about The New Mrs. Collins.

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    1. I know people like that as well and they are about as stressed as they can get. Saying "no" to people certainly won't kill them.

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  18. I love Quanie's writing style, and this book sounds fabulous. Adding it to my TBR pile, and will keep it on top! Thanks for an excellent review.

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    1. Thanks, Kristine! I certainly hope that, if you get a chance to read the book, you enjoy it:)

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  19. Hi Liz,

    You won the digital copy of The ABC’s of Appetizers for commenting on Loni Townsend's blog. I was unable to find a contact for or email address. Please contact me and I'll send it out to you.

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  20. My mom keeps telling me, "'No' is a complete sentence. Nothing more needs to be added." I haven't learned that yet. I have major volunteering issues. Great advice!

    And your book sounds awesome!!

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    1. Yes! "No" is a complete sentence. Your mom is so right!

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  21. Quanie's SO funny. I love it! I worked with a guy about 10 years ago who said that very thing. "I have a lot of great ideas for books. Why don't you write them and we'll split the profits." Like coming up with an idea is SO much harder than writing a 200-page novel!

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    1. "Split the profits." *Backs away slowly. Runs from the room* Bwa!

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  22. That's a great-looking cover -- way to support a fellow writer, Liz! We do need to say no sometimes. Our marketing director handed me a 10-page newsletter and asked me to proof it (due the next day). I teach middle school English. I have 100+ essays to grade sitting on my desk. But I helped out anyway. Should I have said no? Maybe next time.

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    1. Due the next day? What nerve! I swear. Some people just have no clue. SMH.

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